Paano mag move-on (compilation)

Disclaimer: i did not write this article. I just saw it from other sites and compiled it for personal purposes of reminding myself how to moveon. Lol

How to move on:

First.. Remind yourself that moving on is the best choice specially if:
> You’re asking for attention and affection.

You should never have to look for evidence that the other person likes you. It should be clear. Nor should you ever have to earn love from that person. You are lovable and valuable, simply because you are here. Love from your significant other should be freely given. It should never have to be begged for or asked for.

> You can’t be your true self.

Are you constantly trying to make yourself more “pleasing” for the person you’re with? you shouldn’t feel that way all the time.Accept, love and be yourself. It’s not a solid relationship if you can’t ask for what you want/need, or can’t simply be yourself without fear the other person will leave you.

> S/he doesn’t invite you anywhere.

If someone wants you around, he or she should be proud to bring you places. Please remember your friendship, love, time and company are gifts, not burdens, and deserve to be treated that way. He or she is separating you from others

> You keep trying to “fix” your significant other.

You keep making excuses for your partner’s actions. You have to date the person, not his or her potential.Otherwise, you’re wasting precious moments of happiness focusing on what “could be” instead of the reality of what is.

> Your relationship is one-sided.

People will always be willing to go out of their way, sacrifice and make the effort for things that are important to them.It’s exhausting to give 100 percent of yourself to a person who only gives you 20 percent in return. You deserve to be just as much of a priority as you make your partner.A relationship is a two-way street.

> You have to convince yourself you’re happy.

Don’t keep someone around who leaves you feeling exhausted and depleted every day. Friendship and love should be sources of joy, not stress. If you have to sit and think if you love your partner, you probably don’t; rather,  you like the idea of him or her.

I read a quote once that said, “If you find something good, hold onto it. If you have to convince yourself that it’s good every day, let it go.”

At the end of the day, regret nothing. Time spent with the wrong person can sometimes bring about the right things. Although it’s scary, sometimes you need to run away to see who is running with you.Realizing I deserved better was the first step to receiving it. It’s better to have nobody than to have someone who is halfway there, or doesn’t want to be there.

Don’t hold on to someone who doesn’t deserve you, or stay in a place that causes you more pain than joy.

Will it be hard? Yes! But it’s better to have some temporary pain than a lifetime of being stuck somewhere you know you don’t belong.

You can care about someone, forgive someone, want good things for someone, and still move on without him or her.

You don’t lose anything when you let go of someone who doesn’t care for you the way you deserve; you gain back who you are.

I’ve said this is an another article before, and I will say it again now: You don’t have to have romantic love in your life to have love in your life. Open your eyes to the beautiful world all around you.

Romantic love will come in due time.
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Stop Loving Someone You Have a Crush On

Ask yourself if you really love this person. Sometimes it might feel like you love someone - the hot guy who works at Starbucks, someone you met on the internet, etc. - but it's really just an infatuation or crush. Yes, you might think about them all the time and imagine what it would be like to be with them, but if you never spend any time with them or they don't even know you exist, it's unlikely that what you're feeling is love.
True love requires reciprocation, it requires spending time with the person and getting to know all of their individual quirks and flaws.
If you haven't experienced this, then it's more likely that you're more in love with the idea of the person, than with the person themselves.
If you can persuade yourself that what you're feeling isn't really love - in the true sense of the word - then you will find it a lot easier to move on.


Make a list of all the reasons why it would never work.

Making a list of concrete reasons why a relationship between you and the other person would never work can be very helpful when you're pining for them and need a little reminder of why you should stop.
It could be absolutely anything - from the fact that there's a thirty year age gap between you, to the fact that they're gay, to the fact that you could never truly love someone who has a tattoo of a Celtic cross on their left bicep.
Be brutally honest with yourself - your heart will thank you for it in the long run. Tell yourself that he/she isn't the nicest person and they don't deserve you.

Focus on developing relationships with available people.

Do yourself a favor and stop mooning over someone it's never going to work out with and start focusing your attentions on someone more available. Perhaps you've been so busy loving someone from a distance that you haven't noticed your soul mate sitting right under your nose.
You know that male friend that's always offering to carry your books for you? Or that girl who looks you directly in the eyes and smiles every time she passes by? Focus on him/her.
Even if you don't develop any romantic engagements immediately, it's always good to put yourself out there and endeavor to meet new people.

Remind yourself that you deserve to love someone who loves you back. 

Unrequited love is painful and is something that no one deserves to live with forever, especially someone as amazing as you. You deserve to be with someone who adores you, who thinks the sun shines out of you, who wants to spend the rest of their lives with you. Forget the idiot who doesn't love you back and refuse to settle for anything less than pure, unadulterated adoration.
Try using positive affirmations to remind yourself of how awesome you are. Look in the mirror and repeat five times "I am an amazing person who deserves to be loved". You may feel silly at first, but sooner or later it will start to sink in.